Monday, April 15, 2013

Men are victims too


Harare- While the majority of domestic violence victims are women, abuse of men happens far more often than people know.
Berot Ndlovu (53) opened up to The Zimbabwean on how he had suffered at the hands of his wife Fadzai Gumbo in their sixteen years of marriage.
“Everything that I did in the house was always wrong and my wife would beat me with any objects in the house. I have permanent scars all over the body and I can no longer twist my middle finger as she bite me almost ripping it off,” he said.
For years Ndlovu did not speak out as he was embarrassed about his situation and wondered what the society would say.
“Being a men and wanting to protect my ego I never mentioned my situation to anyone. This matter remained in my heart though I was burning inside. I was afraid of becoming a laughing stock in my community,” he added.
Director for Varume Svinurai, a men’s forum, Fred Misi said men are physically stronger than women but that doesn't necessarily make it easier to escape the violence in most relationships.
“An abused man faces a shortage of resources, skepticism from police, and major legal obstacles, especially when it comes to gaining custody of his children from an abusive mother
“ At the moment men’s concerns are being over shadowed as there is a general belief that women are the only victims of domestic violence,” Misi explained.
Ndlovu said financial constraints in the house worsened his situation as he could not provide enough for the family.
“ Our problems were emanating from the fact that I did not have adequate money. My wife would scold at me saying I was not a man enough. At one point she pulled my private parts saying that was the only thing that showed I was a man,” Ndlovu added.
When Ndlovu confided in his brother he was encouraged to stay as he was old and needed someone to look after him.
“ When I told my brother about my situation he could not believe me but later encouraged me to stay. He said I was getting older and needed a partner who could look after me,” he said.
Victoria Mapxashike, Director for Happy Marriages Consultancy acknowledged that most men were being abused but were not keen to discuss their marital problems.
“ I have assisted a few men and you can tell that they will not be comfortable in our discussions. At times they leave in the middle of the discussion and never return,” Mapxashike said.
Director for Musasa Project, a leading women’s organisation, Netty Musanhu said the number of men who were victims of domestic violence remained suppressed as compared to that of women.
According to the 2011 Zimbabwe Demographic and Health Survey, 1 in 4 women reported that they had experienced sexual violence and 1 in 3 women aged 15 and 49 have experienced physical violence since the age of 15.
“ Moving forward lets fight as a nation to do away with all forms of violence be it against men or women. There is need for government to implement gender based laws, just having them on paper is not enough,” she told The Zimbabwean.
Ndlovu who was residing in Westgate said he left his family at the beginning of the year and is now staying alone at a farm in Chivhu.


Prayers for peace intensify ahead of elections


Harare- Zimbabwe Pastors’ Fellowship, a grouping of pastors from various churches will embark on a countrywide crusade conducting peace prayers ahead of the coming general elections.
The peace prayers which are aimed at encouraging peace in communities will be held under the theme, “Burying the Hatchet”.
 President of ZIMPAF Watson Furayi said pastors were concerned by the increase of violence reports and to encourage peace in the coming elections, the grouping had decided to be proactive in its calls for peace.
“We believe peace prayers are important in nation building in the post conflict era. We don’t want wait for things to happen and only react when people would have died.
“Our people have endured violence and strife before and after independence and we want to put God first in nation healing and reconciliation effort,” said Furayi.
The fellowship has since conducted one such crusade in Seke and would proceed to Marondera over the weekend (Saturday), one of Zimbabwe’s politically charged province in Mashonaland East.
“The peace prayer in Marondera will be graced by political leaders from across the political divide, including Mashonaland East Governor Aneas Chigwedere.
“ We believe if we put God first, with a God fearing political leadership, this nation will rise among other nations,” he added.
The 2008 election was marred by violence which led to the formation of the Government of National Unity after the elections were dismissed as illegitimate.


Breaking cultural barriers-Emthojeni Women’s Forum


Bulawayo- Emthojeni Women Forum, female lobby group based in Bulawayo has been fighting and challenging the behaviours, beliefs and customs that promote domestic violence and abuse of women’s rights in Zimbabwe.
Zimbabwe, like any other African countries has a patriarchal system which views women as inferior to men. This has subjected women to various forms of abuse domestically and professionally.
EWT was formed in 2010 and has been conducting awareness campaigns, engaging community leaders on issues of domestic violence and the Domestic Violence Act.
“For women, the organisation engages them through dialogue, where they get to discuss all forms of abuse, the DVA, Inheritance Laws, and marriage laws and their importance to them as women.
 “In addition the organisation provides counselling services to both survivors and perpetrators of domestic violence,” said EWF Director, Sikhathele Matambo.
Matambo told The Zimbabwean that communities are now aware of how negative cultural practices adversely impact their societies and are now speaking out against violence.
She said more women were reporting cases of domestic violence which showed that women were now more aware of their rights, hence more victims/survivors reporting or seeking counselling.
“The challenge however has been what to do on realization that a community member has been subjected to one of these harmful practices and at times the fear to interfere or take action on behalf of the victim.
 “This is further aggravated by what they say to be ‘lack of support’ from law enforcement agents. No resistance is faced but a cry to assist especially where early marriages are concerned, which unfortunately are still taking place,” she said.
Recently Deputy Minister of Women’s Affairs, Gender and Community Development, Jessie Majome said perpetrators of violence against women were not punished enough to desist from the practice.
She urged government and civil society organisations to increase women’s access to resources and to identify economic empowerment initiatives.
“These initiatives could range from the need to train women in business management, the sourcing of markets, engaging public-private partnership on women development and empowerment.
“There is a need to consider the issue of collateral for women when approaching banks for loans. We may even have Women/ Community banks,” Matambo added.
 The organisation established an in-house information centrehaving observed that the community does not have information on social service providers and the services they provide.
“Through counselling the organisation has assisted in enabling the perpetrator gain awareness of acceptable conduct in the community,” she said.
However, Matambo said women in rural areas were left out in most gender empowering programs as the organisation did not have capacity to reach out to all women in the rural Matabeleland
“Our work is affected by misconceptions within societies about rights based organisations, there is suspicion by males that anti-domestic initiatives are meant to create defiant wives.
“Despite these challenges we are happy that women are gradually becoming assertive and are now able to claim their rights.  Our community dialogues have enabled women to come for assistance seeking redress from their abusive relationships which is noteworthy indeed.  

Wednesday, October 17, 2012


WJMP-Candidate
I have been selected as a participant in the 2012-13 Women's Journalist Mentoring Program run by U.S Embassy Public Affairs Section & the Humanitarian Information Facilitation Center( HIFC )This is an amazing opportunity for me to grow as a radio broadcaster after winning an award for Contributing to Children, World Peace & Human rights by JCI TOYP-Ten Outstanding Young Persons of Zimbabwe.This is a great achievment as a woman with a disability in Zimbabwe.

Friday, October 5, 2012


JUST THOUGHT I SHOULD SHARE THIS....


Revolution and Technology

One, was that it’s being admitted that the Tunisian government was outwitted by a young and bored generation. But one that was also well-educated and armed with nothing but cyber cafes.
If the government had tapped into the potential of the younger generation, they would have better understood the social media strategy being launched against them. But instead of appreciating that demographic…they restricted it.
That restriction led me to my second thought. America most definitely has a young, bored, well-educated and well resourced generation on our hands. But I don’t think they would ever pull this off.
The reason? The average Tunisian young adult is oppressed, uncomfortable and longing for the chance at a 20 hour per week job. The American young adult on the other hand, is playing Xbox 20 hours a week. Boy, what a difference.

What Can We Do to Affect Change?

My take-aways are these two thoughts…
1. We need to get really uncomfortable…really fast.
2. As John Piper said about it today in one of his tweets, “Lord Jesus, cause this “first internet revolution in the world” to serve the advancement of the gospel.”
Question: How can you get out of your comfort zone more for the sake of the gospel? And how can we as Christians use modern day technology to our advantage?
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Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Photo: Today is World Contraceptive Day~ Remember this is a human right issue that every human being has the right to full access & choice to Reproductive Health. Persons with disabilities are normally sidelined when it comes to this critical issue.Today is World Contraceptive Day~ Remember this is a human right issue that every human being has the right to full access & a choice to "Reproductive Health Care". Persons with disabilities are normally sidelined when it comes to this critical issue. When you see a person with a disability share this information with them and remember knowledge is power!
 
 
I am so, so honoured to announce that i am a nominee / semi fianlist for JCI Zimbabwe 2012 TOYP- Ten Outstandingd Young Persons of Zimbabwe. My catergory is...Contribution to Children, world peace/human rights. The awards will be presented in Kariba on the 5th of October. I would not have gone this far without your support & belief in me as a woman with a disability, broadcaster, Poet, feminist, a friend & your prayers! In God i trust! Thank you all & "watch the space" luv yah...spread the word.See More